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Excellence vs. Perfection

Depression is Not Sadness

Conflict in the Workplace

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10 Common Errors in CBT

What to Do When Your Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Marriage

Rejection Sensitivity, Irrational Jealousy and Impact on Relationships

For Women Only: How to Have the Relationship of Your Dreams

What to Do When Your Partner's Jealousy Threatens to Destroy Your Relationship

Making Attributions for a Healthier Attitude

Happiness is An Attitude

Thinking Your Way to a Healthy Weight

Guide to How to Set Achieveable Goals

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PsychNotes Index

  • Aging and Lifespan Issues
  • Anger, Conflict, and Forgiveness
  • Anxiety
  • Childhood Issues
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Communication
  • Depression
  • Emotions
  • Fitness and Health
  • Happiness and Well-being
  • Mental Abilities and Memory
  • Mindfulness and Relaxation Methods
  • Pain Management
  • Parenting
  • Performance, Success and Goal Attainment
  • Personality
  • Physical Health
  • Policies and Issues in Mental Health
  • Relationships
  • Rejection Sensitivity
  • Self-esteem and Self-efficacy
  • Sleep Disturbance
  • Social Anxiety
  • Social Media and Internet
  • Stress and Coping
  • Trauma and PTSD
  • Weight Control and Body Image
  • Work and Productivity

    Select by Year:

    Aging and Lifespan Issues

  • Do Not Go Gentle: Mental Decline and Aging
  • The Stress Hormone and Mental Abilities in Older Adults
  • Brain Training and Age-related Decline of Driving Skills
  • The Truth About Aging and Dieting
  • “I'm Old, Not Stupid!” Patronizing Speech and the Elderly
  • Older, But Happier
  • What Do You Believe About Growing Old?
  • Want to Live a Long and Happy Life?
  • Getting Better With Age: Improved Well-being
  • Fountain of Youth: Exercise Slows Mental Decline
  • Anger, Conflict, and Forgiveness

  • Be Careful Accusing Someone of Lying
  • Perspective, Empathy, and Forgiveness
  • Convincing Yourself to Forgive When It Seems Unfair
  • How Moral Identity Influences Witnesses' Reactions to Abusive Supervisors
  • Conflict Resolution: What if You Considered Other People's Views?
  • Blame as a Way of Feeling in Control
  • Six Characteristics that Distinguish a Healthy Anger from Hate
  • Making an Assertive Complaint
  • Forgiveness Isn't Always a Virtue
  • When to Criticize Your Partner
  • Why Some Girls Are More Vulnerable to Developing Depression/Anxiety When Marital Conflict is Present
  • Laugh in the Face of Adversity: Reducing Stress During Marital Conflict
  • Time Plus Value: Equation for Forgiveness?
  • Is Rage Worth the Physical Suffering?
  • Marital Conflict: When Bad is Good and When It's Bad
  • Anxiety

  • Why Relabeling Anxiety as Excitement Doesn't Work
  • Anxiety and Poor Memory: It's Really About Attention
  • Developing Tolerance of Anxiety
  • Perception of Family Criticism Impedes Recovery from Panic Disorder
  • It's Not as Simple as Being Grateful
  • Treating Social Anxiety Disorder: Comparing Mindfulness Training and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
  • Do You Worry When Waiting for Medical Test Results?
  • Reduce Worry By Thinking About It?
  • Being Too Aware of Your Body Can Lead to General Worrying
  • “Which Coping Strategy Should I Use?”
  • Listening to the Message of Anxiety
  • Be Sure to Sleep After Exposure Treatment
  • Treatment for Long-term Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD) May Differ from Short-Term GAD
  • The Difference Between Normal Worry and Generalized Anxiety Disorder
  • Anxiety Disorders May Not Be As Prevalent As We Thought
  • Best Predictor of Treatment Outcome for Anxiety Disorders
  • How Effective is CBT for Children With Anxiety Disorders?
  • Listening to Your Heart Helps Moral Decision-Making: But is it Good for Fear Avoidance Decisions?
  • An Anxiety Disorder is Not Weakness!
  • Why Some Girls Are More Vulnerable to Developing Depression/Anxiety When Marital Conflict is Present
  • Anxiety and the Avoidance of Positive Emotions
  • Massage: Effects on Anxiety, Depression, and Pain
  • Effects of Introversion When a Person has Panic Disorder
  • CBT Reduces Anxiety During Breast Cancer Treatment
  • Afraid of Feeling Good?
  • Childhood Issues

  • Exposure Treatment of Simple Phobias in Children
  • Encouraging Task Persistence to Help Children Achieve in Life
  • Will-power or Strategy?
  • Most Kids Ignore Cyber-Bullying
  • Understanding Asperger's Syndrome, Grief, and Avoidance of Loss
  • How We Might Stop Bullying: Kindness Curriculum for Preschoolers
  • Aggressive Children Can Learn Control
  • How Playing Violent Video Games Affects Your Children
  • Medication and ADHD: What's Wrong With These Numbers?
  • How Effective is CBT for Children With Anxiety Disorders?
  • Are U.S. Children Over-medicated With Stimulants?
  • "Common Sense" Approach to Praise Can Worsen Self-esteem in Vulnerable Children
  • Why Some Girls Are More Vulnerable to Developing Depression/Anxiety When Marital Conflict is Present
  • ADHD: A Problem With Restraint?
  • Exercise Can Help Adolescents With Depression
  • Violent Video Games Cause Aggression
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

  • Don't Assume You Know What Others Are Thinking and Feeling
  • Treating Social Anxiety Disorder: Comparing Mindfulness Training and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
  • Efficiency: Determining the Difference Between Perfectionism and Striving for Excellence
  • “Which Coping Strategy Should I Use?”
  • Blaming as a Way of Feeling in Control
  • How Does Cognitive Therapy Help Depression?
  • Why You Need to Write to Challenge Thinking
  • Be Sure to Sleep After Exposure Treatment
  • Rejection Elicits Positive Coping Among Those With High Self-Esteem
  • This Is Your Brain on Change
  • Treatment Resistant Depression isn't Resistant to Cognitive Therapy
  • Did You Know Psychotherapy Has Stronger Scientific Evidence Than Many Common Medical Procedures?
  • Binge Eating: CBT vs. Medication
  • Why CBT Instead of Medication?
  • Problem with Depression and CBT: It Can Be OverWhelming
  • How Effective is CBT for Children With Anxiety Disorders?
  • Be Realistic! Not Optimistic!
  • CBT Reduces Anxiety During Breast Cancer Treatment
  • CBT vs. Medication for Depression
  • Effectiveness of Online Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
  • Communication

  • In Praise of Specific Praise
  • Be Careful Accusing Someone of Lying
  • Assertion 101: The Importance of Eye Contact
  • Steps to Reduce Holiday Stress When Encountering Family Demands
  • Assertion 101: You Have the Right to Say “I Don't Care”
  • People-pleasing 101
  • When Emotional Reasoning Interferes With Having a Dialog About Micro-aggressions
  • Handling Passive-Aggressive Emoticons
  • Assertion 101: Don't Apologize for a Request
  • Assertion 101: Just Say “No”
  • Do You Understand Me? Conflict in Relationships
  • When Doctors Don't Listen
  • Is Your Boss Unfair? What You Can Do About It
  • “I've Been There” Doesn't Always Mean “I Support You”
  • Value Your Partner to Reduce Feelings of Rejection During Disagreements
  • Making an Assertive Complaint
  • When to Criticize Your Partner
  • Marital Conflict: When Bad is Good and When It's Bad
  • Depression

  • When You Love Someone With Depression
  • Something Good About Depression?
  • Why People with Depression Avoid Positive Experiences: or, It's Impossible to Pull Yourself Up by Your Bootstraps
  • On the Importance of Healthy Eating When Severely Depressed
  • Persistence, Zest for Life, and Mindfulness
  • It's Not as Simple as Being Grateful
  • Gut Bacteria, Auto-immune Diseases, and Depression
  • Mindfulness Practice and Relapse Prevention When Using Anti-depressants
  • Antidepressants Do Little for Mild to Moderate Depression
  • Want an Easy and Uplifting Health Practice? Laughing Qigong
  • How Does Cognitive Therapy Help Depression?
  • Treatment Resistant Depression isn't Resistant to Cognitive Therapy
  • Does Sadness Cause Depression?
  • Qigong Can Reduce Depression
  • Problem with Depression and CBT: It Can Be OverWhelming
  • Stomach Bacteria and Depression? Really?
  • Moody? Maybe It's Your Stomach Bacteria
  • Can Pop Culture Make You Depressed?
  • Harnessing Happiness When You Have Depression
  • Does Trauma Cause Depression?
  • Why Some Girls Are More Vulnerable to Developing Depression/Anxiety When Marital Conflict is Present
  • Massage: Effects on Anxiety, Depression, and Pain
  • Grief is Not Depression
  • Qi Gong Exercise Shown to Improve Mood
  • CBT vs. Medication for Depression
  • Exercise Can Help Adolescents With Depression
  • Are People Who Set More Extreme Goals At Risk for Depression or Mania?
  • Emotions

  • Snap Judgments of People as “Creepy” May Harm You
  • Perspective, Empathy, and Forgiveness
  • Convincing Yourself to Forgive When It Seems Unfair
  • Do You Have Too Much Empathy?
  • Difference Between Dealing With Emotions and Being Stuck in Negative Emotions
  • It's Just Words
  • Irrational: Is it the Word or the Intention that is Offensive?
  • When Emotional Reasoning Interferes With Having a Dialog About Micro-aggressions
  • Gratitude Associated With Self-control
  • Developing Emotional Tolerance
  • When You are Distressed: Write!
  • Predicting Regret to Help Make Decisions
  • Understanding Asperger's Syndrome, Grief, and Avoidance of Loss
  • When to Forgive Yourself: Self-forgiveness and Responsibility
  • Importance of Guilt vs. Irrational Guilt
  • The Costs of “Get Over It”
  • Empathy Requires a Strong Sense of Self
  • Six Characteristics that Distinguish a Healthy Anger from Hate
  • Love Enhances Men's Ability to Recognize Emotion
  • Rejection Elicits Positive Coping Among Those With High Self-Esteem
  • Mindful Attention Reduces Anger for Those With Borderline Personality Disorder
  • Addiction to Emotions and Mindfulness Practice
  • Does Sadness Cause Depression?
  • Acceptance as the Basis for Wisdom?
  • Drug Companies to Profit From Grief? An Opinion
  • “I want to feel good NOW!”
  • Moody? Maybe It's Your Stomach Bacteria
  • Be Realistic! Not Optimistic!
  • Anxiety and the Avoidance of Positive Emotions
  • Being Mindful of Emotions Decreases Intensity
  • Grief is Not Depression
  • To Cry or Not to Cry?
  • Qi Gong Exercise Shown to Improve Mood
  • Afraid of Feeling Good?
  • Leave Work at Work: Emotional Detachment
  • Fitness and Health

  • When Health Policies Run Amok and Good Parenting Causes Problems: Peanut Allergies
  • Children Prefer Activity
  • Forgiveness Can Impact Heart Health More Than Traditional Medical Treatments
  • Hate Exercise?
  • Fountain of Youth: Exercise Slows Mental Decline
  • Exercise Can Help Adolescents With Depression
  • Happiness and Well-being

  • Compassion, Not Pity
  • Happy Friends Can Improve Your Health
  • Can a Gratitude List Make a Difference in Your Life?
  • Managing Adversity Improves the Outcome of Happiness
  • The Only Way to Have a Balanced Life is to Do It
  • Why Do People Choose Unhappiness?
  • Why You Don't Need to Be Happy
  • Buying Happiness: It Can Be Done!
  • Not Happy? Just Wait...
  • Is It True that Parents are Less Happy than Non-parents?
  • How Can Each of Us Make a Difference in the World?
  • Want an Easy and Uplifting Health Practice? Laughing Qigong
  • The Danger of Seeking Happiness: How to Protect Your Children
  • The Pursuit of Happiness or the Pursuit of Money?
  • Can't Force Happiness on Someone
  • "I Like It When You..."
  • Money May Not Buy Happiness, But How You Spend Money May Help
  • Want to Live a Long and Happy Life?
  • Harnessing Happiness When You Have Depression
  • Be Realistic! Not Optimistic!
  • mHealth Happiness Seekers and Effectiveness
  • Getting Better With Age: Improved Well-being
  • Intelligence, Health and Happiness
  • Tell Others About Your Good Fortune...If They're Likely to Be Happy For You
  • Mental Abilities and Memory

  • Can't Think When You're Hungry?
  • Intuitive vs. Deliberate Thinking: Which is Better?
  • Think Multi-tasking Makes You More Efficient? Think Again!
  • Do You Want an Education or Do You Want a Grade?
  • Curious About Improving Your Memory?
  • Influence of Exaggerated News Stories: It's Not That You're Stupid, It's the Nature of Memory
  • Improving Attention and Quality of Effort
  • Fountain of Youth: Exercise Slows Mental Decline
  • The Pesky Chemical Causing Social Memory Problems
  • Wii Brain Training: Fun, But Useful?
  • Your Brain: Use It or Lose It?
  • Mindfulness and Relaxation Methods

  • There's a Time for Mind“less”ness, Too
  • When Anxiety is Caused by Mindfulness Practice
  • Shouldn't Mindfulness Be Free?
  • May You Have a Mindful New Year!
  • Persistence, Zest for Life, and Mindfulness
  • Treating Social Anxiety Disorder: Comparing Mindfulness Training and Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
  • Does Mindfulness Make You Good? No, but Does It Matter?
  • The Time to Relax is When You Don't Have the Time
  • List of Stress Management Methods
  • Stressed About Managing Stress?
  • Improving Performance by Mindfully Reducing Self-interruptions
  • Mindfulness and "To Do" Lists
  • Mindfulness is Simply Being Without Judgment
  • Mindful Passion
  • Mindfulness: What's in a Name?
  • Mindfulness Practice and Relapse Prevention When Using Anti-depressants
  • The Mindful Journey
  • The Benefits of Mindfully Washing Dishes
  • The Difference Between Mindful Focus and a Mindful Attitude
  • Mindfulness Training Shows Promise for Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder
  • Mindfulness and Managing Chronic Pain
  • How We Might Stop Bullying: Kindness Curriculum for Preschoolers
  • Practicing Loving-Kindness May Elicit Resentments
  • How Mindfulness Can Reduce Risk for Alzheimer's and Heart Disease
  • Mindful Attention to Unhealthy Foods Improves Food Choices
  • Want an Easy and Uplifting Health Practice? Laughing Qigong
  • Mindful Dating: How Does Mindfulness Affect Satisfaction in Relationships?
  • 10 Everyday Frustrations and a Mindful Attitude
  • What is the Difference Between Mindful Acceptance and Emotional Suppression?
  • Mindful Attention Reduces Anger for Those With Borderline Personality Disorder
  • The Paradox of the Mindful Attitude
  • The Key to Mindful Breathing for Sleep
  • Addiction to Emotions and Mindfulness Practice
  • Mindfulness Practice is Not Focusing, It is Re-Focusing
  • How Much Should You Practice Mindfulness?
  • For Fun--Try Being Mindful About the Weather
  • What Could Be More Mindful Than a Cat Watching Bird Videos?
  • Wisdom Doesn't Come In Sound Bites
  • Qigong Can Reduce Depression
  • Demands vs. Mindfulness for Enhancing Performance
  • Acceptance as the Basis for Wisdom?
  • “I want to feel good NOW!”
  • The 20-Minute a Day Miracle
  • Be the Best You Can Be: On Mindfulness and Performance
  • Being Mindful of Emotions Decreases Intensity
  • Massage: Effects on Anxiety, Depression, and Pain
  • Mindfulness and Flow in the Workplace
  • Mindfulness May Prevent Relapse
  • Is Mindfulness-Based Therapy Effective?
  • Qi Gong Exercise Shown to Improve Mood
  • Mindfulness Skills Can Improve Relationships
  • Pain Management

  • It's Not What You Think But Also How You Think That Affects Chronic Pain
  • Stressed About Managing Stress?
  • Tension: The Worst Thing for Pain
  • Mindfulness and Managing Chronic Pain
  • Managing Chronic Pain Through "Decentering"
  • Massage: Effects on Anxiety, Depression, and Pain
  • Parenting

  • Encouraging Task Persistence to Help Children Achieve in Life
  • Teaching Resilience
  • When Health Policies Run Amok and Good Parenting Causes Problems: Peanut Allergies
  • The Physical Toll on Empathetic Parents and How to Find Balance
  • Is It True that Parents are Less Happy than Non-parents?
  • Helping Children Achieve Their Potential
  • Children Prefer Activity
  • Secure Attachment to Parents Improves College Adjustment
  • A Good Night's Sleep Doesn't Overcome the Stress of Controlling Parents
  • Mom: Let Go of the Guilt
  • How We Might Stop Bullying: Kindness Curriculum for Preschoolers
  • Helicopter Parenting: When Is Parental Involvement Too Much?
  • The Danger of Seeking Happiness: How to Protect Your Children
  • Aggressive Children Can Learn Control
  • Choose Your Own Dream: Don't Pursue What You “Should”
  • Praising Children Can Reduce Performance
  • The "Kleptoparasite" Bird Steals Food Through Intermittent Reinforcement
  • How Playing Violent Video Games Affects Your Children
  • Is It More Important for Your Children to Love You or Trust You?
  • Rewarding Desired Behavior vs. Everyone Gets a Reward
  • Teaching Children How to Handle Adversity
  • Another Natural Consequence Example
  • Natural Consequences for Children
  • "Just Enough" Parenting Style
  • "Common Sense" Approach to Praise Can Worsen Self-esteem in Vulnerable Children
  • Violent Video Games Cause Aggression
  • Performance, Success and Goal Attainment

  • Uncertainty, Decision-making, and Stress
  • Can't Think When You're Hungry?
  • An Easier Way to Achieve Goals that Require Self-control
  • Motivational Psychology: Or, How Everyone Can Benefit From Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy
  • Will-power or Strategy?
  • How to Practice Like an Expert
  • Predicting Regret to Help Make Decisions
  • Setting Goals Isn't Enough for Success
  • Exploring Possibilities for Identity Achievement
  • Life is Like...Planning a New Vegetable Garden
  • Improving Performance by Mindfully Reducing Self-interruptions
  • Mindfulness and "To Do" Lists
  • What Are Reasonable Goals?
  • Helping Children Achieve Their Potential
  • How to Succeed at Goals (or Why Goals Fail)
  • Efficiency: Determining the Difference Between Perfectionism and Striving for Excellence
  • Do We Really WANT to Educate Our Children?
  • Do You Want an Education or Do You Want a Grade?
  • Why Do You Have Trouble Delaying Gratification?
  • What is an Achievable Goal?
  • Why Set Goals If 50% of New Year's Resolutions are Broken by Three Months?
  • What Determines the Success of New Year's Resolutions?
  • Choose Your Own Dream: Don't Pursue What You “Should”
  • Demands vs. Mindfulness for Enhancing Performance
  • Listening to Your Heart Helps Moral Decision-Making: But is it Good for Fear Avoidance Decisions?
  • Be the Best You Can Be: On Mindfulness and Performance
  • Improving Attention and Quality of Effort
  • How Both Overly Positive and Negative Misperceptions of Performance Can Affect You
  • Are People Who Set More Extreme Goals At Risk for Depression or Mania?
  • Personality

  • Risk is a Matter of Perception: What is Risk to You?
  • When Do Good People Cheat? Or, Developing Compassion by Recognizing Your Flaws
  • People-pleasing 101
  • The Physical Toll on Empathetic Parents and How to Find Balance
  • Can Being Shy Affect Your Well-being and Relationship? Yes, but It Depends...
  • How Honest Are You?
  • Introverts are Important, Too!
  • Forgiveness Isn't Always a Virtue
  • Be Realistic! Not Optimistic!
  • Don't Be Too Unselfish in a Group--You Might Be Removed
  • Effects of Introversion When a Person has Panic Disorder
  • Are People Who Set More Extreme Goals At Risk for Depression or Mania?
  • Physical Health

  • Happy Friends Can Improve Your Health
  • On the Importance of Healthy Eating When Severely Depressed
  • Gut Bacteria, Auto-immune Diseases, and Depression
  • An Easier Way to Achieve Goals that Require Self-control
  • Recovering from the Physical Assault of Surgery or Intensive Care
  • Spending Money on Others Can Lower Blood Pressure
  • Do You Worry When Waiting for Medical Test Results?
  • If You Are Sick, Does That Mean You Are Irrational?
  • How Mindfulness Can Reduce Risk for Alzheimer's and Heart Disease
  • The 20-Minute a Day Miracle
  • Can Sleeping Pills Shorten Your Life?
  • Intelligence, Health and Happiness
  • CBT Reduces Anxiety During Breast Cancer Treatment
  • Is Rage Worth the Physical Suffering?
  • Policies and Issues in Mental Health

  • Evaluating Psychological Information in the Information Age
  • Why Social Anxiety Disorder may be Created by Culture
  • It's Just Words
  • When Emotional Reasoning Interferes With Having a Dialog About Micro-aggressions
  • The Influence of News Commentators
  • Does Mindfulness Make You Good? No, but Does It Matter?
  • What Causes People to Live Longer When They Retire Later? Limitations of Research
  • Do You Worry When Waiting for Medical Test Results?
  • Most Kids Ignore Cyber-Bullying
  • Understanding Research: Colors, Happiness, and Weight Loss
  • When Health Policies Run Amok and Good Parenting Causes Problems: Peanut Allergies
  • When Doctors Don't Listen
  • Women and the Decline of Violence (Part 3)
  • Are We Evolving? Thoughts on Violence (Part 2)
  • Violence is Declining (Part 1)
  • Three Ways to Save on Your Prescription Drug Costs
  • Advice in Context or Why Diagnosis is Important
  • What Do the Nuremberg War Criminals and Facebook Have in Common? Human Experimentation Without "Informed" Consent
  • Is the Wall Street Journal Suggesting That Facebook Should Discriminate Against Those With Mental Illness?
  • What I Could Do If I Were Facebook: Would This Be Acceptable to You?
  • Is It Okay to Profile Those on the Autistic Spectrum?
  • Lies, Damned Lies, and Statistics
  • How Playing Violent Video Games Affects Your Children
  • Drug Companies to Profit From Grief? An Opinion
  • Relationships

  • The Essence of a Good Marriage: Friendship
  • Why Are People Mean? When You Love a Narcissist
  • Be Careful Accusing Someone of Lying
  • Perspective, Empathy, and Forgiveness
  • Reality TV Distorts Beliefs About Others
  • Convincing Yourself to Forgive When It Seems Unfair
  • Steps to Reduce Holiday Stress When Encountering Family Demands
  • You Have to Be Willing to Set Limits with Disrespectful Adult Children
  • Escaping the “Rubber Fence" Family
  • Young Adults Can Improve Romantic Relationships by Learning to Be Okay Alone
  • Do You Love Me? Do You REALLY Love Me?
  • Do You Understand Me? Conflict in Relationships
  • Toxic Parents: Mean or Emotionally Distressed?
  • “I've Been There” Doesn't Always Mean “I Support You”
  • Mindful Dating: How Does Mindfulness Affect Satisfaction in Relationships?
  • When Bad Things Happen, Share the Good
  • Do You Seek Reassurance of Love? That Might Be Okay...Unless...
  • Successful Marriages Require Emotional Control
  • What You Watch Influences Your Romantic Beliefs
  • "I Like It When You..."
  • Value Your Partner to Reduce Feelings of Rejection During Disagreements
  • Connecting Through Emotions
  • When to Criticize Your Partner
  • Don't Be Too Unselfish in a Group--You Might Be Removed
  • Laugh in the Face of Adversity: Reducing Stress During Marital Conflict
  • Superman Effect? Wear Red to Attract Women
  • Body Image and Marital Satisfaction
  • "I Think She Wants Me!" A Study of Sexual Misperception
  • Security in Relationships Related to Less Dishonesty
  • Forgiveness Isn't Always the Best Policy
  • Marital Conflict: When Bad is Good and When It's Bad
  • Time Plus Value: Equation for Forgiveness?
  • Social Success: Your Self-Esteem May Get In Your Way, Not Your Ability
  • Tell Others About Your Good Fortune...If They're Likely to Be Happy For You
  • Mindfulness Skills Can Improve Relationships
  • Early Marital Disillusionment Predicts Later Divorce
  • Predicting Successful Relationships: Attachment Security
  • Rejection Sensitivity

  • Do You Seek Reassurance of Love? That Might Be Okay...Unless...
  • Do You Trust Your Partner's Expression of Acceptance?
  • Do You Have Gelotophobia? More Than 11% of People Do
  • Rejection Elicits Positive Coping Among Those With High Self-Esteem
  • Value Your Partner to Reduce Feelings of Rejection During Disagreements
  • How Do You Handle Rejection?
  • Self-esteem and Self-efficacy

  • The Purpose of “Normal” Low Self-Esteem
  • Selfies: A Sign of Low Self-esteem? Think Again
  • Helping Children Achieve Their Potential
  • Empathy Requires a Strong Sense of Self
  • Rejection Elicits Positive Coping Among Those With High Self-Esteem
  • "Common Sense" Approach to Praise Can Worsen Self-esteem in Vulnerable Children
  • Social Success: Your Self-Esteem May Get In Your Way, Not Your Ability
  • Sleep Disturbance

  • The Key to Mindful Breathing for Sleep
  • Can Sleeping Pills Shorten Your Life?
  • Insomnia: Does Counting Sheep Work?
  • Stress Management Treatment for Insomnia
  • Social Anxiety

  • Why Social Anxiety Disorder may be Created by Culture
  • Can Being Shy Affect Your Well-being and Relationship? Yes, but It Depends...
  • Anxiety Disorders May Not Be As Prevalent As We Thought
  • Value Your Partner to Reduce Feelings of Rejection During Disagreements
  • Can Facebook Make You More Anxious When Meeting Someone?
  • Social Anxiety and Bias in Forming Impressions
  • Acts of Kindness and Social Anxiety
  • Don't Be Too Unselfish in a Group--You Might Be Removed
  • How Do You Handle Rejection?
  • The Pesky Chemical Causing Social Memory Problems
  • Social Success: Your Self-Esteem May Get In Your Way, Not Your Ability
  • Predicting Successful Relationships: Attachment Security
  • Social Media and the Internet

  • The Influence of News Commentators
  • Selfies: A Sign of Low Self-esteem? Think Again
  • Why Do You Use Social Media?
  • Influence of Exaggerated News Stories: It's Not That You're Stupid, It's the Nature of Memory
  • Can Facebook Make You More Anxious When Meeting Someone?
  • mHealth Happiness Seekers and Effectiveness
  • Lying Online: Be Careful What You Read
  • Stress and Coping

  • Uncertainty, Decision-making, and Stress
  • Is the Stress Hormone Good or Bad?
  • Spending Money on Others Can Lower Blood Pressure
  • Stressed About Managing Stress?
  • “Which Coping Strategy Should I Use?”
  • When Bad Things Happen, Share the Good
  • Do You Work Better Under Stress?
  • Laugh in the Face of Adversity: Reducing Stress During Marital Conflict
  • Lunch Break or Stress Break?
  • Coping With Traumatic Stress
  • Trauma and PTSD

  • Perception of Family Criticism Impedes Recovery from Panic Disorder
  • Toxic Parents: Mean or Emotionally Distressed?
  • “I've Been There” Doesn't Always Mean “I Support You”
  • Does Trauma Cause Depression?
  • Coping With Traumatic Stress
  • Weight Control and Body Image

  • Why Dieting May Be Painful and What You Can Do About It
  • How Something Tastes is Influenced By Your Thinking
  • An Easier Way to Achieve Goals that Require Self-control
  • Using the Cognitive Diary for Eating Disorders
  • Will-power or Strategy?
  • Is Being Overweight Healthy?
  • Children Prefer Activity
  • The Truth About Aging and Dieting
  • Mindful Attention to Unhealthy Foods Improves Food Choices
  • Binge Eating: CBT vs. Medication
  • Eat Anything You Want--Just Cook It Yourself
  • Plan Before You Lose Weight
  • Hate Exercise?
  • Do You Believe You Can Lose Weight?
  • Body Image and Marital Satisfaction
  • Work and Productivity

  • Time Pressure and Work Performance: Finding Balance
  • Changing Thinking About Work
  • Demands vs. Mindfulness for Enhancing Performance
  • Do You Work Better Under Stress?
  • Mindfulness and Flow in the Workplace
  • Lunch Break or Stress Break?
  • Leave Work at Work: Emotional Detachment




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