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REJECTION SENSITIVITY QUESTIONNAIRE
(YOUNG ADULT VERSION)

 
FOR ADULT VERSION CLICK HERE

The following questionnaire is for personal information only and is not meant to be a professional evaluation. As with many research questionnaires, this questionnaire may not be normed for online participants. Please take this into account when you receive the results.

This questionnaire determines how sensitive you are to rejection.


Each of the items below describes things college students sometimes ask of other people. Please imagine that you are in each situation.  For each item, imagine that you are in the situation, and then answer the questions that follow it according to how concerned or anxious you would be and how likely they would respond in the way that you want.

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Situation 1: You ask someone in class if you can borrow his/her notes.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not the person would want to lend you his/her notes?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that the person would willingly give me his/her notes.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 2:  You ask your boyfriend/girlfriend to move in with you.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not the person would want to move in with you?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would want to move in with me.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 3: You ask your parents for help in deciding what programs to apply to.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your parents would want to help you?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that they would want to help me.
 
Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.


Situation 4: You ask someone you don’t know well out on a date.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not the person would want to go out with you?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.



I would expect that the person would want to go out with me.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 5:Your boyfriend/girlfriend has plans to go out with friends tonight, but you really want to spend the evening with him/her, and you tell him/her so.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your boyfriend/girlfriend would decide to stay in?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that the person would willingly choose to stay in.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 6:You ask your parents for extra money to cover living expenses.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your parents would help you out?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that my parents would not mind helping me out.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 7: After class, you tell your professor that you have been having some trouble with a section of the course and ask if he/she can give you some extra help.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your professor would want to help you out?
 
Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that my professor would want to help me out.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.


Situation 8: You approach a close friend to talk after doing or saying something that seriously upset him/her.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your friend would want to talk with you?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would want to talk with me to try to work things out.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 9: You ask someone in one of your classes to coffee.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not the person would want to go?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that the person would want to go with me.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.


Situation 10: After graduation, you can’t find a job and ask your parents if you can live at home for a while.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your parents would want you to come home?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect I would be welcome at home.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 11:  You ask your friend to go on a vacation with you over Spring Break.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your friend would want to go with you?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would want to go with me.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 12: You call your boyfriend/girlfriend after a bitter argument and tell him/her you want to see him/her.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your boyfriend/girlfriend would want to see you?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would want to see me.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.


Situation 13: You ask a friend if you can borrow something of his/hers.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your friend would want to loan it to you?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would willingly loan me it.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 14:You ask your parents to come to an occasion important to you.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your parents would want to come?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that my parents would want to come.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 15:You ask a friend to do you a big favor.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your friend would do this favor?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would willingly do this favor for me.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 16: You ask your boyfriend/girlfriend if he/she really loves you.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your boyfriend/girlfriend would say yes?
 
Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would answer yes sincerely.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 17: You go to a party and notice someone on the other side of the room and then you ask them to dance.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not the person would want to dance with you?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would want to dance with me.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.



Situation 18: You ask your boyfriend/girlfriend to come home to meet your parents.

How concerned or anxious would you be over whether or not your boyfriend/girlfriend would want to meet your parents?

Extremely unconcerned.
Very unconcerned.
Unconcerned.
Concerned.
Very concerned.
Extremely concerned.


I would expect that he/she would want to meet my parents.

Extremely unlikely.
Very unlikely.
Unlikely.
Likely.
Very likely.
Extremely likely.


No login required to obtain results.

Your score is for personal information only. It is not meant as a professional evaluation.

Information regarding the Rejection Sensitivity Questionnaire can be found at:

Downey G. & Feldman, S. (1996). Implications of Rejection Sensitivity for Intimate Relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 70, 1327-1343.

Feldman, S. & Downey, G. (1994). Rejection sensitivity as a mediator of the impact of childhood exposure to family violence on adult attachment behavior. Development and Psychopathology, 6, 231-247.



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