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The Porcupine Effect: Pushing Others Away When You Want to Connect

by Monica A. Frank, Ph.D.

Index

  • Introduction
    What is the "Porcupine Effect" and how can it impact your life?


  • The Plight of the Prickly Porcupine
    Describes the "Porcupine Effect": how the distress of rejection can cause the perception of rejection which may result in being rejected.


  • When Rejection is an Illusion
    Describes how perceived rejection can be wrong. Discusses the four desires for relationships and when those desires can lead to inaccurate feelings of rejection.


  • Redefining Rejection
    Discusses ways to think of perceived rejection differently and how to think about actual rejection. Describes some methods to help change thinking about rejection.


  • Desire for Love vs. Demand for Romantic Love
    Identifies how romanticized versions of love can lead to feelings of rejection and how to think differently about love relationships.


  • When You Know You Are a Porcupine
    Discusses rules for relationships when you are sensitive to rejection. Identifies ways to change your behavior so your sensitivity doesn't impact your relationships.


  • When People Are Mean
    Reasons for Perception of Meanness Inventory--helps you to determine why other people's behavior is not a rejection of you but is unintentional or due to their personal problems.


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