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Don'ts |
Do's |
Example
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Don't sometimes ignore the behavior. |
Do set limits every time the behavior occurs. |
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Don't respond with anger. |
Do stay calm. |
"I feel hurt when you treat me like this."
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Don't accuse or plead. |
Do state the problem assertively. |
"Don't call me names."
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Don't feel helpless and despaired. |
Do feel confident knowing you have control of your reaction. |
Refuse to participate in the conversation.
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Don't expect the other to change. |
Do change the situation by how you respond. |
You can walk away if a person refuses to treat you with respect.
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Don't continue to interact in situations where the behavior occurs. |
Do limit your interactions. |
If the behavior is worse when you are alone, avoid being alone.
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Don't be passive. |
Do be direct. |
“I won't tolerate this behavior.”
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Don't use just words. | Do back up your words with action. | Leave the situation. |
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