Index to 50 Rules of Life

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We have so many demands on life, on ourselves, on other people. Everywhere we turn there are expectations and obligations.

Yet, peace is found when we let go of these demands.

That doesn't mean, though, that we can't have goals and desires. It just means we need to keep it in perspective. It means not to be fixated on something as the path to our happiness.

When we believe that happiness can only be achieved in a certain way—acquiring wealth, finding a special partner, having the perfect job—then we are relinquishing our happiness to the control of outside forces or events. A person can even fixate on and demand mindfulness: “If I meditate regularly and am mindful, I will be happy.”

Instead, the only control we truly have is in acceptance. If we accept the way things are, instead of demanding they should be different, we are more likely to find contentment.

Accept that you are imperfect but you can still try your best.

Accept that others can be flawed but can still care and have good intentions.

Accept that imperfections and flaws are viewed through the lens of demands. Without demands, your perception changes.

Accept that pain and suffering exists but so does joy and pleasure. You choose your focus.

Accept that you can try to change things and may succeed or fail. The importance is in the attempt, not the outcome.

Accept that the pinnacles of achievement may feel good for a moment, but the journey is what matters.

Accept that the world doesn't have to be what you think it should be.

Accept that you can be wrong and others can be right.

Accept that the depths of despair isn't all there is.

Accept that happiness isn't a goal to be achieved.

Accept that life matters but doesn't have to be conquered.

Accept, don't demand.