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Question:My soon-to-be mother-in-law always wants to be the center of attention. The last straw is she wants to wear a dress to MY wedding that is fancier than my wedding dress! I think this is a deliberate passive-aggressive attempt to make me look bad on my wedding day. She didn't do this at her daughter's wedding! How can I stop her?
Response: What appears to be passive-aggressive may not always be passive-aggressive (PA). It is often important not to assume PA behavior. Otherwise, you will frequently find yourself angry and distressed when it may not be intentional PA behavior. Maybe this mother-in-law (MIL) wants to be the center of attention, but it seems to be an assumption to conclude "this is a deliberate passive-aggressive attempt to make me look bad."Copyright © 2011 by Excel At Life, LLC.
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