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List of Irrational Beliefs
by Monica A. Frank, Ph.D.

The following is a list of the irrational beliefs used in Excel At Life's cognitive diary examples and apps.


Negative Evaluation of Self

Viewing yourself and your abilities negatively.

Article: Danger: Negativity Ahead

Negative Evaluation of Others

Viewing others, their motives, and abilities negatively.

Article: Danger: Negativity Ahead

Negative Evaluation of Situations

Expecting negative outcomes and seeing only the negative aspects of a situation

Article: Danger: Negativity Ahead

Catastrophic Thinking

Believing the worst possible scenario will occur.

Article: Catastrophe? Or, Inconvenience?


Having unreasonable expectations or demands.

Article: To Should? Or, Not to Should?

Mind-Reading Others

Believing you know what others are thinking or feeling based on their actions.

Article: Read Books, Not Minds

Mind-Reading Expectation

Believing others should know what you are thinking or what you want

Article: Read Books, Not Minds

Labeling Self

Using negative labels to describe yourself.

Article: Danger: Negativity Ahead

Labeling Others

Using negative labels to describe others.

Article: Danger: Negativity Ahead


Believing that what happened in one situation is likely to happen in another.

Article: But It Happened Before!


Having expectations about others' behavior and criticizing others.

Article: To Should? Or, Not to Should?

Internal Control

Believing you should be in control of all situations and that outcomes are based on your effort alone.

Article: When the Need For Control Gets Out of Control

External Control

Believing everything that occurs is due to luck or fate so that you don't take responsibility.

Article: When the Need For Control Gets Out of Control


Believing others' behavior and reactions are in response to you.

Article: Why Are People Mean? Don\'t Take It Personally!

Emotional Reasoning

Believing an emotion is reality without evaluating the evidence.

Article: Use Your Head! And Your Heart!


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