REJECTION SENSITIVITY QUESTIONNAIRE SCORE
Your score is:
You have low rejection sensitivity. Your social behavior probably is not based upon what other people may think of you or how they might react to you. You do not tend to worry about rejection. You may also tend to believe that others will be receptive towards you and unlikely to reject your requests. You may tend to have a great deal of social self-confidence.
Your score is for personal information only. It is not meant as a professional evaluation.
Information regarding the Rejection Sensitivity Questionnaire can be found at:
Downey G. & Feldman, S. (1996). Implications of Rejection Sensitivity for Intimate Relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 70, 1327-1343.
Feldman, S. & Downey, G. (1994). Rejection sensitivity
as a mediator of the impact of childhood exposure to
family violence on adult attachment behavior.
Development and Psychopathology, 6, 231-247.
"Individuals who are
rejection-sensitive are more likely to perceive
rejection in situations others may
not interpret as rejection."
REJECTION SENSITIVITY, IRRATIONAL JEALOUSY, AND IMPACT ON RELATIONSHIPS (page
by Monica A. Frank, Ph.D.
As a child Cynthia's hyperactive behavior often annoyed others. Her teachers
frequently reprimanded her in school. The other students called her "stupid"
and refused to let her join them in activities. At home, her father criticized
her and beat her with a belt whenever her parents received a negative report from school.
Due to depression, her mother tended to ignore Cynthia's needs for emotional support
and attention. As a result, she grew up expecting rejection from others. It seemed
that no matter how hard she tried, all she experienced was rejection.
As an adult she had numerous unsuccessful relationships. She desperately wanted the acceptance
to be found in a relationship; however, she perceived her partner's behavior negatively often
thinking about how he wasn't as committed to the relationship and that she was just good enough
until someone else came along. These thoughts led to hostility toward him and accusations "You
don't care about me!" Due to her focus on her worries about losing him she did not focus on his
needs and provide him with emotional support. Her partner tried to reassure her and comfort her
at first but the constant negativity and hostility drained his ability to respond to her needs.
Jake was physically abused as a child; for seemingly no reason to Jake his alcoholic father became
enraged and beat him leaving bruises and welts. These beatings included screaming at Jake about how
worthless he was and that no one could possibly ever want him or love him. His mother was rejecting
in a more subtle way by tending to blame him for his father's behavior "If you just wouldn't set him
off, he wouldn't hurt you."
When Jake developed an intimate relationship as an adult, he perceived his wife's behavior as indicating
she was cheating on him. He examined her phone records and questioned her endlessly about calls she made.
He didn't allow her to go out socially unless he was present and even then he questioned her about her
interest in other men if she talked to someone. His wife could not convince him she was not having an affair.
Eventually, his irrational jealousy led to slapping her when she denied his accusations.
What do these two people have in common? They developed rejection sensitivity due to childhood experiences
which led to irrational thinking and behavior about their adult relationships. This thinking and behavior
often reinforced itself by creating situations in which they were more likely to be rejected.
READ MORE: page 2
Rejection Sensitivity.--page 1
What is Rejection
Sensitivity? and What is Irrational Jealousy?--page 2
How is Rejection Sensititivity Related to
Childhood Abuse or Rejection?--page 3
How are Rejection Sensitivity, Self-Esteem and Social
Anxiety Related?--page 4
How does Expectation of Rejection Affect Perception of
How does Rejection Sensitivity Impact an Intimate
How is Rejection Sensitivity Self-Perpetuating?--page 7
How is Rejection Sensitivity Changed?--page 8
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